Predators who play the long game don’t start with the children because then the game is over too quickly. Children are people pleasers and like to keep the peace and the adults in their lives happy, so the best way to keep a child from speaking and upsetting their parents, cause predators are not stupid, is to first groom and manipulate the parents. You, Mom and Dad, are the target. If they can get through you, then they can get to your child.
This very much reminds me of Larry Nassar, particularly the way he befriended the parents first - in many cases, he was abusing girls with their mothers in the room. If you haven’t watched At the Heart of Gold, you absolutely should (but prepare to ugly sob because it’s truly one of the most horrific things I’ve ever seen).
This times a thousand:
1.) Safe adults don’t keep secrets with children
2.) Safe adults don’t keep things from parents
3.) Safe adults don’t treat children like they’re equals
4.) Safe adults don’t try to come between parents and children
Thank you for being a sane voice in this crazy world!
Every time without fail you bring wisdom and things you don't exactly think about the first time around. Thank you
This very much reminds me of Larry Nassar, particularly the way he befriended the parents first - in many cases, he was abusing girls with their mothers in the room. If you haven’t watched At the Heart of Gold, you absolutely should (but prepare to ugly sob because it’s truly one of the most horrific things I’ve ever seen).
Well said